Read This BEFORE You Get Into A Relationship
I ruined my relationship.
I was in an almost four-year relationship fresh out of high school, and I admit, I stayed in it way longer than I should’ve. During this relationship, I was in the midst of the darkest period of my life, where I didn’t leave my house for three years due to Agoraphobia. The relationship had become entirely virtual, and over time, it fizzled out. I was too scared to break up with them because I was terrified of being alone. I eventually hit a breaking point where staying in the relationship became too painful, and I had already hurt them too much, so I decided to end it (and horribly, I might add).
Eventually, I realized I needed to accept being alone, and I made peace with that.
Not even two months later, someone special walked into my life. I had never experienced a raw and deep connection like this with anyone before. Despite my not wanting a relationship, I couldn’t let them pass me by. We were together for almost two years, and it was a beautiful and loving relationship that ended in unimaginable pain.
It was mostly my fault; I wasn’t taking care of myself and lacked the emotional maturity required for a sustainable relationship. I was stuck in a victim mindset, constantly complaining about the negatives in my life, rejecting advice, and doing nothing to change my situation. The person on the receiving end can only take so much of this before they run out of patience, which is precisely what happened.
I had jumped into this too soon, knowing I wasn’t ready. I allowed myself to enter a new relationship while I was still filled with so much self-hatred and unhealed self-sabotage habits. It was completely unfair to them, I know that now.
I had grown up with no independence. My grandmother took care of me til I was seventeen years old, and it wasn’t until I was 21 that I learned to make my first home-cooked meal. All my life, I’ve had someone guiding me, helping me, doing things for me, and telling me what to do. I lost the ability to think and make decisions purely for myself.
The relationship began to emulate this scenario. Despite my partner’s loving intentions and encouragement to help me better myself, I didn’t have the autonomy I needed because I still wasn’t thinking for myself. I was only trying to appease them so they wouldn’t leave. This was a double-edged sword.
After spending a few months alone, I cultivated my autonomy and started working towards becoming the best version of myself. This energy attracted my soulmate back into my life despite the hardships we’ve faced, and now we’re stronger than ever. I’m pushing myself every single day to become better than who I was yesterday, not just for them, but for myself too. When you focus your energy on your health and well-being, everything around you will fall into place.
It’s essential to prioritize your independence. Your relationship with yourself is the most important and intimate one you’ll ever have. It’s wise not to begin a new relationship until you have maintained a strong foundation of self-love and self-worth for a while (if you can, sometimes you can’t control when the right one walks into your life!). Self-sabotage will screw you six ways from Sunday if you don’t heal those wounds, and you could even lose out on a beautiful relationship like I once did.
Don’t make the same mistakes.
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** DIGITAL WORKBOOK **
I know how hard it can be to love yourself; sometimes it feels impossible.
I’ve been where you are. My struggles with self-love and self-worth led to heartbreak and the end of a beautiful relationship. But through that pain, I found a way to transform my life.
The Next Chapter offers a unique and holistic approach to cultivating deep self-love and introspection. It is designed to build self-worth, promote independence, boost self-confidence, and help you overcome the toxic cycle of self-sabotage.
This workbook is perfect if you are struggling with any of the following:
Low self-worth
Low self-esteem
Self-hatred
Self-sabotage
Self-neglect
Insecurity
Heartbreak
Codependence
Negative self-talk
Imposter syndrome
Setting boundaries
By the end of the workbook, you’ll feel:
Loved and connected to yourself
Healed and ready to move forward
Confident in your body
Independent and self-sufficient
Empowered to set boundaries
Strong and capable of handling anything
Introspective and emotionally intelligent
What's inside?
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